The Martha Syndrome

“Martha, Martha”, He said. How many1. Worried (careful – in the KJ)
times have we Stress Junkies been a Martha?2. Troubled (bothered – NASB, upset –
To set the scene, and for those who may notNIV)
know the story, Martha and Mary were sisters.3. About MANY things
They had a brother named Lazarus. Now MarthaPicture this, you’ve been killing yourself for
and Mary have a house in Bethany neardays, everyone is in YOUR house, eating YOUR
Jerusalem, and their brother has invited somefood, and drinking YOUR wine. This party is all
friends over for dinner. One of the friends is anabout Jesus, and here he is, he’s putting YOU
important guy, a real man of the hour back thenon the carpet for making sure everything is
– his name is Jesus. He comes from a smallperfect? And in front of EVERYONE – his
town, his father was just a carpenter, his motherfriends, your friends, your sister! WOW!
got pregnant before she was married, but thisAnd get this part, more than likely Jesus is not
man has made a name for himself. Anyonelimiting his observation to just this day and time.
who’s anyone wants to talk to him, listen toHe says “many things”. He’s knows
him, touch him, or be touched by him. If Today inMartha has a bigger problem. One that leaves her
Hollywood was on TV back then, he’d havehelplessly devoted to cooking, cleaning, serving,
the whole show every night!worrying, hurrying, and troubled. Martha, my dear
So Martha and Mary are having company…Ifriends, was a Stress Junkie! Martha could very
mean to say, a PARTY. Because Jesus alwayswell be the very first recorded Stress Junkie,
travels with his twelve closest friends, so thatproving that we are not the product of a fast
makes sixteen for dinner. Plus, Martha and Marysociety. We are a product of ourselves, our
just HAVE TO invite some of their friends andpersonality, our decisions; for if Martha, who lived
neighbors just so everyone will see who they rubtwo thousand years ago, was Type A, then
elbows with.there’s no blaming society for our problem.
So much to do, so much to do! Big party to plan,We all know the symptoms. I mean, when was
prep and cook for. In those days, youthe last time that you sat and enjoyed a party at
couldn’t just order out or call the caterers;your house? Was there EVER a time? When was
you had to do it all. The term potluck supperthe last time you had a party or even guests for
wasn't even coined yet! Water didn't come intodinner that you didn’t pull out ALL your
the house, bread wasn't sold at the market. Incookbooks to find something “special” to
fact, the grain had to be ground for the flour, themake? Ever? About that housekeeping, do you
water had to be carried from the well, and thereally think people are checking the corners, the
oven ran on wood and grasses that the womenbaseboards, and inside the cabinets for dirt when
gathered. As for housekeeping, there were nothey're at your house? I know what you're
companies like Merry Maid or Molly Maid. Therethinking...no, they don't check. And the reason
was just Martha Maid and Mary Maid.they don't check is because they KNOW when
Now for those of you who don’t know Jesusthey come to my house, it's clean. Believe me,
personally, imagine the likes of Brad Pitt, Motherguests may not notice what I do to prepare, but
Teresa, Ronald Regan and Billy Graham ALLsure as hell, they'd notice if I DIDN'T do
coming to your house at the same time - and stillsomething.
you haven’t even scratched the surface ofI believe that was Martha's dilemma as well. She
this man Jesus.really really wanted to hang out with Jesus and
To Stress Junkies like us, we know the routinethe guests like her sister. In Martha's mind, if Mary
for Martha. As soon as she learned that Jesushad helped her, then maybe she'd have had the
was coming, she went into high gear planning thetime to sit down and relax. Maybe so...but based
menu, scrubbing, mopping, dusting, tidying. Ofon Jesus' take on her situation, probably wouldn't
course, there are invitations to send, shopping tomatter. Mary's help would just free Martha's time
do, food to prepare…the list seemingly endless.to go handle some other little detail.
And why not, she’s the older sister, theSo, what do we do with Martha? What do we do
practical one, the responsible one. It’s whatwith ourselves? Should we be more like Mary?
she does.Can we be? There's no doubt that if you're
The big day arrives, and we can picture thereading this, you're the practical sister. You're the
house…it’s clean, fresh and orderly withone who's easily distracted by many things that in
sunlight streaming through the windows.your mind, HAVE to get done. Everyday tasks,
There’s bowls of snack food, fruit andhousehold chores, work, kids, school, husband,
flowers out and about, cool drinks and the smellchurch, PTA, soccer games, birthday parties, and
of delicious foods coming from the kitchen.so on and so on and so on...These things have to
Guests begin to arrive and who’s there toget done, right? And if not by you, then...frankly,
greet them? Little sister, Mary – the oneby whom?
who’s chosen to sit at Jesus’ feet andThe answer is simpler said, than achieved.
listen. The one who most likely sits among theRemember when you were a kid and you
guests at all the parties. Sure, she did a little prepwanted to learn how to ride without training
work this morning…at her sister Martha’swheels? What skill did you need to master? You
insistence. But now, the party has begun, andalso need it to roller skate, ice skate, walk a tight
she’s choosing the “one thing”, therope, actually, you need it just to stand up. It's
“good thing” as Jesus later puts it.called BALANCE. We Stress Junkies need to learn
Martha’s in the kitchen. She slaves away overhow to strike a balance between what needs to
hot pots in a hot room. She sets the table, bringsget done, and what HAS to be done. We need to
out trays of food, refills glasses…Mary sits attake a few minutes out of each day to just
the feet of the guest of honor, listening, laughing.stand still. That's right STAND STILL and pause.
She’s enjoying the time. Martha, well, sheWe need to take a moment or two out of every
finally loses it. She complains to Jesus that Maryday to reflect on what's really important. That's all
should come and help her.Jesus was saying to Martha. He wasn't bashing
Jesus responds, “Martha, Martha, you areher for serving them, he was advising her to set
worried and troubled about many things…” -priorities and take the needed time out to enjoy
Luke 10:41 NKJ"one good thing", before her time was past.
So she is: